And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
Japanese guys are often too shy, scared or whatever and the majority of Western men is only interested in Japanese / Asian women.
As a result it is tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.
Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.
I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.