Many times the unloving spouse isn’t actually unloving, their efforts to give love back just aren’t seen and/or the efforts to show them love never found their mark.
After seeing these sorts of patterns hundreds of times, the experienced marriage counselor can diagnose that these two spouses just aren’t speaking one another’s love languages.
You are a swift she-camel running here and there, a wild donkey accustomed to the desert, sniffing the wind in her craving—in her heat who can restrain her?
Any males that pursue her need not tire themselves; at mating time they will find her.
Not necessary to change you into a “better spouse” but to change your heart and perspective to find your sustenance in God’s love for you, not in your spouse’s love.
They responded, “We will do everything the LORD has said; we will obey.” (Exodus 24:7) Centuries later, God even reminisces about this day: This is what the LORD says: “‘I remember the devotion of your youth, how as a bride you loved me.
(Jeremiah , 23-24) God knows what it feels like to be unloved by a spouse.
He knows your pain and he longs to hold you and comfort you.
Trying to get my spouse to do what I want might seem innocent, but we’d agree it is the very definition of “self-seeking.” The problem here is that 1 Corinthians 13:5 clearly tells us, Jesus then models sacrificial (the opposite of self-seeking) love for us and tells us to do likewise: Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him!
For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life!