When I say "date," I'm referring to the old-school style of dating — not sleeping together or hooking up.
Have a good vetting process and keep the pipeline filled.
Are you aware of your role in the marriage’s demise?
And, have you made as much peace as possible with your ex and the divorce?
Don’t rule out someone who is a little taller, shorter, skinner, heavier, a different color, older or younger than you “think” is your type.
You should be attracted to the person, as that is so important for the long term!
Sex can be great but, had too early, can cause the demise of a relationship as we are caught in a fog of oxytocin, estrogen, testosterone and dopamine.
Sure, there are a few couples that had sex early on and it turned into a happy marriage, but those are pretty few and far between.
After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first. Is this person willing to accept you, your complexities, maybe your children? Are you on the same page with regards to finances, parenting, living situations, marriage or more kids?I coach all of my clients through a “marriage map” exercise to create a road map of a partner that will make them happy, which is necessary to start picking the right people. Many women stare blankly at me when I ask this question, because they’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else around them that they’ve totally lost sight of what makes them happy.Make a list of five to 10 things that bring you joy, and start to do them again.Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!Maybe it’s your buddies from work, school, your family, neighbors or kids.