But don’t fool yourself into thinking there isn’t more at stake here than just asking out the friend of a friend.All you’ve said about your ex’s friend is that you find her attractive and you’re interested.There are, of course, probably a few women in the world who really wouldn’t care, and maybe your ex is one of those women. Swim in a different dating pool if you really value a genuine friendship with this woman.The gay man’s perspective: Darren Maddox First of all, if she’s interested in you, let her ask you out!In fact, I think having a few pictures could be a bad sign itself.I like seeing old photos of my college boyfriend occasionally.
You get a few points for asking your ex if it’s okay. From the way you describe it, you can go out with her friend! Your friendship with your ex will never get off the ground—at least not until you stop dating her friends.
She’s got a friend I’ve always found really attractive, and recently the friend mentioned to my ex-girlfriend that she’s interested in me too.
My ex says she’s okay with it if we go out, but a couple of my girl friends tell me that I shouldn’t even consider asking her out, no matter what my ex-girlfriend says, so I’m not sure what to do. —TM, Los Angeles, California The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy I’m not a big believer in having a lot of dating rules, but I do hold true to the Golden Dating Rule—do unto significant others as you’d have done to you. Not literally—I’m not recommending fetishes—but see things from her perspective on this.
That's a sign I'm not as over it as I'd like to be. Does your boyfriend have any pictures of his ex-girlfriend?
Knowing that, I wouldn't feel so comfortable if a guy I was dating could barely stand to think of his ex-girlfriend.