In either case, schizoid personalities are difficult to treat because of the patient’s emotional distance and fear of attachment which often manifests itself in the treatment as a lack of commitment to the work.In order to help the patient, the therapist has to remember that the lack of commitment is a defense.People with the disorder are often characterized as having a lack of empathy, a grandiose view of themselves, and a need for admiration." data-reactid="28"To be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, someone needs to express five of nine specific traits.People with the disorder are often characterized as having a lack of empathy, a grandiose view of themselves, and a need for bombing their partners, gaslighting people, and discarding those they no longer have a use for, they can also behave very differently." data-reactid="29"Though many follow similar patterns, such as love bombing their partners, gaslighting people, and discarding those they no longer have a use for, they can also behave very differently.Unlike Larry, Phil exhibited several schizoid characteristics immediately.He is a skinny and boyish young man with rigid posture and stilted speech. He says he feels like Jacques Cousteau looking at all the underwater life.
He won’t steal your money or kill you and dump your body on the side of the road. Is your man detached, and sometimes cold and distant? Does he seem to come close then pull back again and again? Do you believe it could be wonderful if you could just get past his wall? He can be dull, he doesn’t have much fun, and chances are these days you’re not having much fun either. Schizoid people follow a pattern of seeking intense emotional connection followed by creating distance in order to protect themselves from feeling overtaken or consumed by the other.This may be particularly visible in the sexual realm, but it may occur in other kinds of intimate emotional contact as well.As we can see with Larry, Phil and Paul, there is a continuum of schizoid personalities.In Larry’s case, the dynamic emerged over time in the transference relationship between us, while with both Paul and Phil it was palpable almost immediately.