I also noticed that many â [bold]not all,[/bold] but many â of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they donât go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their âailmentsâ as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them.
Iâm very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips.
But, they tell themselves they are 'just attracted to younger guys' and they don't dig any deeper than that. Lots of young guys like older guys with big dicks, and good conversation/maturity. But it's unreasonable to believe we, at 40 something, can get ourselves a very young RELIABLE boyfriend. It does happen occasionally, and it isn't always due to money..it's RARE.
Most older guys would do well to think about WHY they are attracted to what they are attracted to.
The guy I've been seeing is financially secure (relatively well-off, but certainly not rich).
I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.It sucks for me, at 41, because most guys my own age whom I try to date are hung up on much younger or older..don't stay in their age range. Straight men and gay men want younger partners, obsess about younger partners, and pay through the sphincter for younger partners. Gay women can try to date at all ages without being jeered at. Iâm now in my mid-50s, and I had a partner for almost 20 years until he died a few years ago.I've always been one to seek out men for relationships who have been on earth about as long as I have, because that's where the most comfort and commonality can occur with a stranger. I don't know if it's because I didn't have a relationship in my 20s or because the younger guys have the look that attracts me -- not many guys in their 40s can pull off the hipster look and not appear ridiculous. I then realized that dating as a 50-year-old was going to be a lot more difficult than when I was 30 for a variety of reasons, including (a) there just arenât as many guys in my age group; and (b) a lot of them are already partnered. OP, I'm 49, I have no particular interest in guys in their 20s or even their 30s for the most part, but I'm on Scruff and I'm constantly getting messages, woofs, etc., from guys in their 20s - much more than any other age bracket. If you plan to visit the daddy sites that are recommended here, you'd better beef up your bank account.If I had a nickel for every time I heard that one...[quote]I attract mostly guys in their mid 20s looking for someone a little older. I'm not delusional enough to think I look early-mid 20s, but I can pass for a good 10 years younger. Guys in their 20s and 30s see me as one of their contempories.When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care. It's a great thing not to look your age in the gay world, and I'm going to milk my great genetics as long as I can.