As fascinating as the underlying activity is, when you make it sound like your life revolves around it, it automatically makes you sound less interesting to many, if not most, of the readers of your profile. Don’t Be Afraid to Use an Abstract Term for your Username Such usernames as “primitivelogic”, “invinitehorizon”, “originunknown” “appletart”, or “3_olives” or any other abstract words that come from astronomy, biology, geography, philosophy or even the kitchen might not be the most intriguing usernames out there, but they also doesn’t hurt your profile and don’t make you sound lame.A somewhat unclear or mysterious username would also make the reader of your profile want to find out why you chose that kind of username.Cute Blonde123), women were more attracted to names that indicated intelligence (i.e. The study also found that names with letters higher up in the alphabet were found to be measures of success, educational attainment, and income. As the study’s author, Khalid Khan, suggested in a press release, “People are also attracted to those similar to themselves.So before setting up your profile, look at the profiles of people you find attractive and choose a name with a likeness.”In 2014, online dating site Zoosk, took their team of data scientists and analyzed more than 430,000 profiles on the site to determine the top 10 words that appear in members’ profile names.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.In Finding the One Online, I give you 7 hours of audio, a 180 page transcript, a 35 page workbook – and tips on everything from choosing the right site, to writing a compelling online dating profile, to taking the right photos, to flirting effectively via email so that every single person will want to meet you in person. What’s the most memorable username you’ve ever seen on a dating site?
As experts from consumer research group, Next Advisor, found, usernames may seem trivial or petty, but they are indeed the first thing other users see. Do I really want to be hitting up the cute, soon-to-be lawyer who proudly labels himself as “Sxy Frat Boy” or “Sit_On_My_Face69”? Because usernames are important, I spoke with Emily Bartz from Next Advisor about how to ensure that you make the most out of yours. Telling people that you’re funny is so not the same as showing people that you’re actually funny.If I get back into online dating, I’ll probably try to come up with something more clever.Usually I’ll steer clear of someone’s name for the same reason I’ll steer clear of their profile …As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?