Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
The scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25The problem..the solution: We get it.
A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.
The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
Still, navigating the world of online dating can definitely be tricky—what kind of message is clever, but not creepy?
Before diving into the online dating sea, Jakovljevic says you should be aware of what type of relationship you're after.’” — Kristen, 27The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.The scenario: “One time I was messaging back and forth with a guy for two weeks and having a great conversation, but he was taking too long to ask me out, so I stopped talking to him.” — Kelly, 32The problem..the solution: If you’re into her, ask her out! And if you’re not, why are you still talking to her? When she’s ready to make her exit from the online dating world, she’ll let you know. ” The scenario: “I can’t stand when I get a message that says ‘any fun weekend plans? ” — Laura, 27The problem..the solution: Sending a generic message—especially one as uninteresting as this—is not what’s going to make you stand out from other guys.Or if you feel compelled to bring it up, say something like, “I’m not interested in meeting anyone else online. Trust us, she’s getting a boatload of uninspiring messages like “Hi, how are you?