JENNY BROCKIE: Welcome everyone, good to have you with us tonight. RUDO BANYA: I really don't have a rational explanation as to why, I just am. I think personality wise as well, certain interests and things - I just tend to find that I connect better with Caucasian men. LINDA BENZ: Would be for darker men, African men predominantly is probably where I'm sort of more drawn to.Rudo, let me start with you, you have Southern African heritage, what kinds of guys are you attracted to? JENNY BROCKIE: Now you're married to a white Australian man? JENNY BROCKIE: And you've never dated an African man? JENNY BROCKIE: Okay, Linda, what about you, who do you date? JENNY BROCKIE: And what are you drawn to about African men? MIKE MIOCEVICH: I prefer to date black women, so from all around the world, you know, any kind of culture."You want someone who dates you because they like who you are." Shaun Comerford is the General Manager of speed dating company Fast Impressions.
"I think my preference is for black men and that's simply because I don't want to be someone's fantasy or fetish," she says.
For mixed-race women who are dating both on- and off-line, appearance and ethnic identity factor in how they are racialized, how they racialize others, and therefore, how racial dynamics play out.
Mixed-race women use vetting strategies, the specific ways of listening to, and prompting, potential partners on dates to determine their politics.
I do find, as your guest I just find that I click a lot easier with, like Rudo that I do with other kind of women and"¦ JENNY BROCKIE: She's married by the way? So"¦ JENNY BROCKIE: So you went to the dance with the one black girl in the school? He just approached me and said hello, he introduced himself and then actually we parted ways but a little bit later in the night there was a guy at the bar who was quite persistently talking to me that I was trying to find a way out of the conversation and really struggling and it happened that Han walked past and I saw him and recognised his face and I thought well, here goes nothing and I grabbed his hand and I said to the other guy: "Hey, this is my boyfriend", and even though Han had quite limited English skills, he picked up what was going on in the moment and he, you know, he acted the part and he rescued me. Han, when this happened in the bar you didn't speak English, did you, very much?
HAN SONG: I could speak barely, I could just say hi, how are you, I'm fine thank you and you? JENNY BROCKIE: Okay, so when you met Sophie how did you feel about her? HAN SONG: Yes, like when I saw her and she wasn't, she was wearing like a beautiful dress, it was like vintage dress and I thought wow, she's beautiful.