My best friend dating my boyfriend

, I found myself unexpectedly hung up on the following sentence: “I’m lucky because he’s more of a best friend than anything else.”Though it had never occurred to me prior to this moment, the following question activated every contrarian cell in my body: What’s with everyone claiming their romantic partner is also their best friend these days????

I blame pop culture for proliferating this relationship expectation to the point of ubiquity.

A friend will be supportive, but someone whose emotions are clouded with the possibility of being in love will tend to have a more emotional response.

I was super annoyed he wouldn’t call me his best friend, but he made the point that he still wouldn’t tell me everything…like, I don’t know, gross bowel movement stuff.However you feel about him I’m sure what you tell him will be filled with love and respect.After all, a good close friend of the opposite sex is priceless.Blake Lively described Ryan Reynolds as her “best, best friend” in , Kim Kardashian called then-fiancé Kanye West her “best friend who understands me and helps me through all my tough experiences.” In his acceptance speech at the i Heart Radio Awards, Justin Timberlake said, “I want to thank my best friend, my favorite collaborator, my wife, Jessica.” Speaking to I’m still unpacking my feelings about all of this, but I think Ellen’s quote specifically hones in on what’s irking me about this claim heard ‘round the world: It suggests there’s something wrong with your relationship if your significant other is NOT your best friend.That suggestion is perplexing to me because I’ve been dating the same person on and off for 11 years, and while I would probably consider him my favorite human on the planet (the only serious competition being my mom), as well as one of my closest friends on said planet, I’m not sure I would call him a friend, based on the strict definition of the term.

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