Well, our anniversary is coming up and I decided to go ahead and, as a present to my wife, see if my biological father was interested in contact as well.
He was, and even though our parents had used different sperm banks, it appears so did our father, as he is the same person.
She had sought out her biological father as soon as she turned 18, as the sperm bank her parents used allowed contact once the children were 18 if both parties consented.
I never was interested in learning about that for myself, but she felt we were cheating our future children by not learning everything we could about my past, too.
My SIL and I have a decent relationship; we are friendly, but not particularly close.
When my nephew was born, my SIL's group of close-knit friends referred to themselves as "aunties" to him.
I have had to refuse them both and be the ungrateful wicked child.
The only parent who has not asked to stay is my father-in-law, whom I have never met!So the question has always hung over this: What if the offspring meet and fall in love?Well, you've met and it's true that if you had researched your origins and disclosed them to each other, you and your wife would now likely be close half-siblings. But if you are now looking at your wife and thinking, "Hey, sis," I don't see how you can keep this information to yourself.We married soon after graduation, moved back closer to our families, and had three children by the time we were 30.We were both born to lesbians, she to a couple, and me to a single woman.