But there is hope, hope for those who learn to apply the gospel of Jesus Christ to/in their marriages.It seems that Keller writes with an aim to assist couples move from a fragile into a tested and durable marriage.(59) The Christian principle that needs to work is Spirit-generated selflessness – “not thinking less of yourself or more of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” (66) 5.Marriage is a Covenant of Action When one studies a covenant it becomes clear that love is fundamentally action rather than primarily emotion.It is important to note how Keller defines marriage.“a lifelong, monogamous relationship between and man and a woman.God originally intended men and women together, in full participation, carrying out God’s mandate to build civilization and culture.
Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.” (48) See, truth without love ruins oneness, and love without truth gives the illusion/ of unity but actually stops the journey, this is why marriage needs grace. Spouses either stay away from the truth or attack one another.“One of the most basic skills in marriage is the ability to tell the straight, unvarnished truth about what your spouse has done – and then, completely, unself-righteously, and joyously express forgiveness without a shred of superiority.” (165) 4.Marriage Revolves Around Service It takes a loss of pride and self-will for a person to humbly serve others.“On the one hand, the experience of marriage will unveil the beauty and depths of the gospel to you. On the other hand, a greater understanding of the gospel will help you experience deeper union with each other as the years go on.” (48) This is The reason that marriage is so painful and yet so wonderful is because it is a reflection of the gospel, which is painful and wonderful at once.” (48) 7.Marriage Necessitates Understanding Everyone comes into marriage with an idea of gender roles and expectations.